Posted in Miaisha's Moment on February 16, 2011|
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Miaisha Peoples, Student Outreach Intern in the Office for Alumni Relations, shares her thoughts on finding your passion…
A circus, if you will, has a tight rope in which one must balance their weight along with some other form of struggle successfully from one side to the other without falling off. Does this sound similar to any of you? It should. College is the litmus test for finding those who are strong minded enough to complete the task of balancing everyday life with additional hardships added to get to the other side of adulthood. Now, this is not to say that those who choose not to attend college do not also have a balance beam in their three ring circus of life because they often do too sometimes even more complex baggage to carry along with. What is at the end of the tight rope some may never find……..?
True adulthood comes when one realizes the importance of prioritizing and self-responsibility and one has recognized your abilities resulting in success. For many students in college these are their first years of being on their own physically as well as financially. This is a heavy burden for some to learn how to deal with. The parents may have taken care of the student in every area and now the dramatic change in having to pay one’s own bills and provide for self is too hard for some to deal with. On the other hand, the student may have had to get everything on their own and doesn’t know how to ask for help when they really need it. Throw into this mix school, health issues, programs, student organizations, relationships, friendships, jobs, social events, and just wanting to be able to purchase the newest trends you have your own personal balance beam to walk across. The 20’s are the formidable years of adult life which is why I am using the metaphor of a tight rope. Life is not easy and bills are not simply just something that passes through congress it happens in the transition to becoming a successful adult in today’s society. The balancing act is not the same for everyone; no one’s struggles are exactly the same; similar indeed, but never carbon copy. If one can learn how to illustrate efficiency in the way that they learn to carry their weight through life, true adulthood will not necessarily become the easiest thing in the world to deal with but it will become easier. Learning to cope with the curve balls that are handed to you takes tenacity that is not acquired simply by turning 18 or 21 for that matter. Everyone advances in their life and has a different objective to master in order to get to the place they want to be literally and figuratively.
These past few months I have been walking my own tight rope and struggling not to fall with all of the additional weight being put on me and recently I tipped over. Now there is nothing wrong with tipping over or falling for that matter the important part is that you get up, try again, rearrange your game plan and correct your mistakes. Many of us try to go through these hardships in life by ourselves and we continue to fall again and again. Reason being if you are doing something wrong and can’t see it clearly you think what you are doing is right and don’t realize what key elements are holding you down. I’ve come to realize that even as an adult we need help and guidance as well because we still don’t have all the answers we just simply have the bumps and bruises to prove that we tried in life. I’m going to seek a mentor to be a positive motivator in my life that exemplifies what I aspire to be but also a testimony and guider to encourage me successfully across the balance beam. A mentor to inspire me to tackle the obstacles with a story to back up what they are telling me to do and not to do is what I need at this point of my life. Why you ask? So that one day I can be an influential mentor to someone else and help them join me on the other side of the balance beam of life. So as an alumni or current student, think back to a lot of the times in your life when you said you wish you had someone to tell you the things you know now. Are there any things that you know now that could help someone else so that they won’t have to go through the same thing or maybe take a different route? If so take the time out to have that conversation with someone who is in a position you once were in and think about how it felt when that person was you not too long ago. The circus is a place full of entertainment, magic, and people getting paid to pay their roles. Thus is life and thus is the balancing act initiated within will you conquer it or fall down and quit the show? I’m on the quest for achievement see you on the other side.
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